CHATTER

What public figure do you disagree with the most?

It has to be Trump. I can’t think of one good quality.

He only stood for the Presidency to keep out of jail and make money out of those who voted for him.

He is trying to turn the country into another North Korea where he is completely in charge, law means nothing and cruelty and ignorance are his main objectives.

He’s also trying to bring religion back to a growing secular society. He is against those who are doing no harm like the lgbtq community and to immigrants

Plus I worry that he has access to the nuclear codes. He is becoming more senile and is being manipulated in the background by ex Fox News hosts who are mostly uneducated and out only for power.

It’s amazing that of all the highly educated politicians in the USA he should be elected to one of the most important positions in the world.

Let’s hope there are some in his administration that can control his erratic behaviour as his aim seems to be to destroy the USA.

What does “having it all” mean to you? Is it attainable?

To me, after members of my family having been diagnosed with serious illnesses, having it all means being healthy, having enough to live comfortably and having a loving family.

Just recently with no warning my son was diagnosed with throat cancer. He has undergone 7 weeks severe treatment. How would all the money in the world have compensated for watching my son suffer?

Thankfully he’s on the road to recovery and will hopefully get the all clear in July but nothing in this world is certain.

I don’t think we can ever have it all. Just look around at those who are millionaires and billionaires. They look miserable, don’t have stable relationships and have two or three wives. Obviously they don’t have everything. Also how can you spend all that money? They could make their lives better by donating to the poor and hungry in the world but they are always striving for more money and the power that goes with it.

Having it all means many different things to many different people but I’ll settle for what I have, a loving family and enough to live comfortably. This enables dealing with what life throws at us. We almost have it all.

What is the legacy you want to leave behind?

One of caring for others. I would also like to think that along the way I’d been a good friend and reached out to those who were going through a bad time.

I also think my legacy is the family I will be leaving behind. The fact that they have grown into successful happy, well adjusted adults means a lot.

I did a little journalism over the last few years and some and in particular one article made a difference. #Viewdigital . Most councils are now introducing changing facilities for the disabled on their premises. No more changing on the floor.

I’ve written my memories here on Chatter and made video blogs on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/Apallan1 so my ancestors can actually read or view a big part of my life.

I think I was able to forgive people for the way they made me feel at vulnerable times in my life and that takes courage.

So I think all in all my descendants will look back on my life and think of me with love. I hope so anyway 😉

How do you feel about cold weather?

Cold 😜

How do you balance work and home life?

Easily I’m retired. I no longer need to balance my time. My time is more or less my own to do as I please.

Depends on the weather. Can go out walking or I can spend the day at home doing housework, gardening reading, meeting friends.

Would I like to be back in the position of trying to balance work and home life? No, I wouldn’t. I ended up trying to balance work, family and a university degree all at the one time and I ended up having a nervous breakdown.

So I don’t advise taking on more than you can comfortably manage. In the long run nobody benefits when you try to spread yourself too thinly.

What’s a job you would like to do for just one day?

I would love to be a midwife for a day. I’ve always wanted to deliver a baby.

I used to hope that I would be in a situation where pregnant friends or random strangers on the street would go into labour and I would be there to help deliver the baby.

Having had two children myself I know what it means to have good support when giving birth and I would just love to be the one actually giving that encouragement and support. It would be lovely to hand over the baby to the new parents knowing that I wouldn’t be the one having the sleepless nights for the next few years.

It would only be for the day and possibly in reality it would be a lot more traumatic than I imagine. But you never know when it could happen, as it seems to be a regular occurrence on many tv dramas and soaps. Here’s hoping. 😉

Do you vote in political elections?

Always. If we don’t vote then we can’t complain when the opposition wins. Even one vote can make a difference, especially in local elections.

Voting is very important in a democracy. We can see what’s happening in America. Many remained at home and as a result democracy is in danger and an autocrat has taken over.

The rule of law is being ignored and the constitution is being challenged.

I think like the Australian system voting should be compulsory. This could make people think more about politics and those standing for election and make better choices as to who they vote for.

Voting also gives power to the people to vote out those who are not doing a good job or in many cases today who are corrupt and are not there for the good of their constituents. but for the power the position offers them.

So I vote at every election. The suffragettes suffered so that I have that right.

Have you ever been camping?

Yes, for one night and never again.

Many years ago on our way to the South of England to catch a ferry to France we booked into the only campsite on the route. It was dark and we were tired. Got the tent up and settled down for the night.

We didn’t realise we were directly under the flight path into Gatwick and the noise of the planes coming in to land was .. well let’s just say it was not conducive to a good nights sleep.

I can’t remember what we slept on but it wasn’t very comfortable and that together with the noise made the whole experience a disaster.

When the dawn broke we staggered out of the tent and over to the showers. The water was cold and the place wasn’t very clean.

A disaster. I swore never again to camp out and on the return journey booked into an hotel. Camping was not for me.

When do you feel most productive?

Afternoons, my time for housework, walking, visiting friends and all other activities.

Mornings not very productive, trolling through social media, having a leisurely breakfast in bed, ( courtesy of husband) contemplating how I will spend the afternoon.

Evening’s, especially in winter, watching television, playing Words with Friends and back to scrolling social media.

I actually accomplish quite a lot in the afternoons.

But then that’s life for a retired granny. 👵 My time’s my own. And if I don’t want to be productive today, there’s always tomorrow

What are your morning rituals? What does the first hour of your day look like?

Wake up late. Reach for phone. Check social media.

Husband brings breakfast

East breakfast, croissant with raspberry jam, banana, raspberries, pear and any other fruit available. English breakfast tea with milk.

Take tablets.

Bank to social media. Maybe doze a little.

Up and shower.

That’s it. An hour has passed.